I “Hope” This Makes a Difference

My family is in Austin visiting friends for the weekend and I noticed a valuable language pattern one of my friends used. Instead of strongly encouraging (in other words “telling”) me to read a book that he’s very excited about, he used the word “hope“. While I pride myself on helping people come around to […]

Change Your “Behavior Diet” Today

Collaborative Behavior is Long-Lasting and High-Protein The industry has evolved quickly in regards to its view of integrated project delivery. It’s no longer bound to the type of delivery as it is behavior; collaborative behavior. The following metaphor is being used to make a point – I’ve carried 10 pounds of “bad weight” around my […]

The World America Made

Robert Kagan’s book takes the position that without one dominant power in the world, the policies, norms and order that support the last 60 years of peace and prosperity evaporate. I agree for many reasons. Some of which I will list. 1. Someone has to lead. Most people/nations are stuck in “neutral.” There has to […]

The Masters of Collaboration

I recently lead a Collaboration Leadership Lab and made a discovery…. After the Lab participants and I spent the whole day working on collaboration, we went to a dinner called “Cooking-up Collaboration” to complete the learning for the day. The objective of the dinner was to experience collaboration while preparing the meal we were to […]

Remember What It’s Like to be a Doer

If it’s been a long time since you did the job that your team members do and things don’t feel as “tight running” as they should, maybe you should re-engage as a doer for a while to observe, notice and discover how to tighten-things up again. Maybe just the fact you rolled your sleeves up […]

Why We’re Not “Built” for Collaboration

If our eyes are not up and we’re not looking around us it’s difficult to collaborate. It’s sort of like running a race while hopping on one leg. In soccer, a key behavior is keeping your eyes up so you know where to run with or without the ball (as well as where the options […]

Do As I Say, Not As I Do

In 13 years of marriage, I can say my wife and I have only had two “real arguments.” On the other hand, we average a a “dust-up” or two a year. We had a dust-up recently and a few days later, I noticed my 9 year old son talking in a loud, disrespectful tone to […]

More Thoughts on “There’s Nothing New Under the Sun”

I had a conversation today with two different people in their seventies. They’ve seen a lot in their lifetimes. Observations: Every decade, the people living at that time believe the current political situation is the worst ever Every decade, the people over 40 years old believe the young people have it wrong (and vice versa) […]

MUCH Easier Said Than Done: Saying Good Bye

I played my last soccer game last night. It was the semi-final of the North Texas Premier Soccer Association “Over 40A” division spring season playoffs. I’ve been talking with my wife about “retiring” for several years and sharing a hobby like tennis. I realized last night that while I still have a few years left […]