Everyone can do the big things – behave nicely in public towards ones family and friends, be at meetings on time and go to church on Sunday. What about the little things in-between such as behaving nicely when someone doesn’t do what they’d said they would do or when herding the family into the minivan […]
I’ve been working on an issue with a client that reminds me of the fact that if we want change, we have to change the way we measure performance and start measuring for that change which makes sense. What happens if a colleague is asked to change and the way we measure their performance doesn’t […]
My wife does a good job helping me build my strengths. Everyone has a family member, friend or work colleague who can be an ‘accountability partner’ to help them build theirs. You know you have an opportunity to build on a strength when your accountability partner says something that rubs you the wrong way. For […]
1. Competence – is called into question.2. Acceptance – you don’t accept me.3. Control – over reaction to someone trying to control you.4. Survival – you think you can only depend on you and you have to do everything yourself.
In the previous blog posting to this one we chatted about how to constructively approach the behavior issue of two players on a football team running right when the coach asked the team to run left. Point #1 Assuming you are successful changing an existing behavior producing negative results for the team, like this one, […]
If you were part of a football team and the coach told everyone to run right and two players ran left instead, how would you correct this if you’re the coach? First, the coach would have to look at him/her self. The non-compliant behavior of these two team members is being supported by something bigger […]
Most people can collaborate at a higher level just by adjusting their tone with the people closest to them. For example, one of my children just started middle school and the teacher’s expectations regarding homework are much higher than last year. The default parent response when the child doesn’t adjust their behavior successfully is to […]