Forced collaboration is not a whole lot more attractive than forced anything else. Especially when the clarity about what is or is not open for dialogue is missing or murky.
As leaders, hiding behind a “we” that doesn’t fully exist, without claiming what we know to be true: that the vision of the organization is ours and that others are there in support of our vision, not theirs. Because of this, we have many items that are not truly negotiable and were presented as if they were, as if the result was or would be arrived at by everyone.
It is important that we as leaders have clarity about where we are and are not open to collaboration, and to what extent. Part of the relief we create on our team when doing this is simply about being more honest with ourself and others, which seems to also provide some relief for those others on our team.